Updated: Dec 20, 2021
One good place to start with shadow work would be to think of one thing that bothers you, and reflect on what it is about that specific thing or person that might also be a part of or within you.
To figure this out, you could ask yourself gentle questions like:
What is it about it that I don't like?
Do I find that I have some of those same traits sometimes?
What makes it so difficult to be in that situation, or around them?
What parts of me create it as to the situation? Or what does that person not like when I'm around them?
How do I feel about that part of myself?
Contemplate on the answers and journal any interesting realizations.
Choose one thing at a time to work on. Take note of any discomforts, fears, or disturbances while rationalizing and analyzing the responses to the questions above.
Do this exercise as many times as necessary. Each time choosing a different thing that is bothersome whether it be a trait of yourself, or a characteristic of another, or of a situation or issue, etc.
Quite often this type of reflection can lead to some kind of growth. For example: the realization of a resolution to a problem, or acceptance of something, or of ourselves or of someone else, or the evolution of one's own weakness eventually becoming a strength.